Checklist of 7 issues for deciding when it is time for the move. When these issues occur, perhaps it is time to get more daily support for your parent and for some parents it is time to move into an assisted living situation.

  1. Danger - Have they had recent car accidents and/or falls resulting in bruises or cuts
  2. Physical Condition -Have they had recent health related problems, tired all the time, failing eye sight, significant hearing loss, balance problems, trouble walking, trouble standing
  3. Mental Condition - Have they become forgetful, trouble speaking, unusably angry, irritable, moody, several bounced checks, unpaid bills
  4. Personal Appearance - Have they recently changed their hygiene habits, are they wearing dirty clothes, are they wearing the same clothes again and again
  5. Dining - is there constantly no food in the pantry, minimal food in the refrigerator, rotten food in refrigerator, have they lost weight
  6. Condition of their house - is the house in need of a solid cleaning, are dishes piling up in the sink, are there spider webs inside the home, is the house in need of a major repair that is being ignored
  7. Social Activities - Does your once active parent now rarely leave the home, has their circle of friends faded, are they constantly alone

For some of these issues, having help come to your parents' home on a weekly basis can greatly aid your parent to maintain healthy independent living. For other of these issues, an enduring difficulty indicates that your parent is need of a more organized living situation such as an assisted living center to ensure their ongoing wellbeing both physically and mentally.

How To Talk To Your Parent About Moving To Assisted Living

Checklist of 7 topics to address:

  1. Why assisted living is being considered - Identify the exact issue that is concerning you about their safety, happiness and/or health. Tell your parent why you are worried about them living alone in the house.
  2. Social life benefits of assisted living - Inform your parent of how the communal living environment can provide social activities they do not have today that can improve their quality of life.
  3. Meals -Discuss how having meals prepared for them will be easier and better for their overall health.
  4. Daily Aid -Discuss how having someone there every day will help with housekeeping, laundry and keeping track of their medications.
  5. Trial Basis - Discuss this is not a permanent change. It is just a trial period to see if they like it and if it works for them. Explain that today you are not putting their house on the market for sale. There is time to see if this is the right move for them before making any big changes.
  6. Finding the Right Facility - Discuss when you and your parent will go to visit some assisted living facilities to see which one is a good fit for your parent.
  7. Cost and Insurance - Discuss the expenses for assisted living and how it will be paid as well as the cost savings of not living on their own. Consider both time commitments of the entire family and actual cost in dollars.
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